- Status : EXTREMELY WEAK
It is often reported from romantics across social websites the following hadeeth (often with a touching pic) :
“When a husband and wife look at each other with love, Allah looks at both with Mercy” [Bukhari 6:19 & Tirmidhi 14:79].
The problem is that if you check both Sahih al-Bukhari and Sunan ut Tirmidhi, there is no such narration there !
It is rather found in Imam Suyûtî’s al-Jâmi` al-Saghîr, and seemingly taken from Rafi`i’s book entitled ‘al-Târîkh’ (the history, ie not a book of hadith), and is considered very weak by scholars of hadith (various scholars concur on this). There is especially one arrator in the above hadith who has been declared by many Muhaddithun as a liar and fabricator. This hadith is therefore not suitable to be quoted. (See Lisanul Mizan, vol. 2 pg. 181). Shaykh Ahmad Siddiq Al Ghumari (rahimahullah) has classified the narration in question as baseless and a fabrication (baatilun Mawdu’). (Al Mudawi, vol. 2 pg. 388)
Benefit of the doubts is given to the one who sourced it wrongly, but now that you know it is not authentic, simply avoid quoting it.
I’m a wanna be romantic and I still want to quote this hadith since some only consider it ‘weak’ and a weak hadith can always be quoted for fadha’il right ?
‘Ulamas have explained that for using a Da’if (weak) hadith, it is absolutely necessary that, among the three well-known conditions, the narration may not be mawdhu OR its weakness not be too important. In the aforementioned narration, some muhadditheen considered it so weak that they deemed it to be mawdhu (or fabricated).
So the weakness is important thus cannot be quoted.
If you still have some doubt on quoting very weak reports, consider this saying of the Prophet ﷺ ‘Whoever narrates such a Hadith from me regarding whose authenticity he doubts, then he is also from the liars.’ (Sahih Muslim Vol.1 Pg.6)
Nevertheless, the meaning is right and is supported from other authentic ahadith.